Just came across these stats about SAHDs and thought worth passing on.
First, from the “National At-home Dad Network” :
An at-home dad (also called stay-at-home dad or SAHD) is any father who is the daily, primary caregiver of his children. He cooks, cleans and cares for his children most days of the week while his wife works outside the home. Many at-home dads also provide some income to the family by working an evening shift full-time or working from home part-time or doing odd jobs when it works into the family’s schedule. Most at-home dads are in the role by choice (over 70% according to this 2012 study) and not due to a job loss. While these men are doing what used to be almost exclusively done by moms, they are not “Mr. Mom.” They are at-home dads.
From the U.S. 2011 Census:
- About 40% of all meals prepared at home are done by dad.
- About 50% of the food shopping is done by dad.
- 32% of married fathers (approximately 7 million dads) are “a regular source of care for their children under age 15, up from 26% from 2002.” The U.S. Census defines “regular care of children” as an arrangement that is consistent at least one day per week.
- The U.S. Census defines “at-home dad” as a father not in the labor force for the past 52 weeks (this includes not looking for work or going to school) and who’s wife was in the labor force for the past 52 weeks (if she changes jobs and is out of work for a week or more, the father does not count as an at-home dad).
189,000 At-Home Dads (2012 U.S. Census)
176,000 At-Home Dads (2011 U.S. Census)
154,000 At-Home Dads (2010 U.S. Census)
158,000 At-Home Dads (2009 U.S. Census)
140,000 At-Home Dads (2008 U.S. Census)
165,000 At-Home Dads (2007 U.S. Census)
159,000 At-Home Dads (2006 U.S. Census)
143,000 At-Home Dads (2005 U.S. Census)
147,000 At-Home Dads (2004 U.S. Census)
98,000 At-Home Dads (2003 U.S. Census)
106,000 At-Home Dads (2002 U.S. Census)
81,000 At-Home Dads (2001 U.S. Census)
93,000 At-Home Dads (2000 U.S. Census)
Following the US Census definition, since I left my job in August 2012, guess I’m not ‘officially’ a SAHD dad until next September 2013.
And here is some advice for these dads considering joining us:
Richard, a journalist, chose to take a year off from working at the Daily Telegraph to look after his daughter. As a UK trailblazer in the daddy movement, Richard offers us his top ten tips for those thinking of becoming a stay-at-home dad:
1) Don’t think staying at home to look after your child is easier than going out to work. Rewarding? Definitely. Easy? Not a chance.
2) Be prepared for certain people — all of them men — to make comments about “putting your feet up.”
3) Don’t spend all day with your feet up — watching non-stop TV will make you and your child worse, whatever you tell yourself.
4) There is no boss less sympathetic than a toddler — just try asking for the afternoon off because you are feeling ill.
5) Spend as much time as possible outdoors. If the weather is nice, that is smashing. If it isn’t, don’t worry, children are waterproof.
6) Remember that kids take ages to do the simplest of things — it will take you time to adjust, so be patient and enjoy the new rhythm.
7) It is not a target-driven environment, so don’t try and achieve too much — keeping your child safe and happy is the most important thing.
8) Listen to how you talk to your child — keep the whining tone and the “don’t, don’t, don’t,” to a minimum, or you’ll soon hear it come right back at you.
9) Sooner or later, no matter how strong you are, your darling child will break you — the real test is how well you put yourself back together.
10) If you think maybe it is not for you, just think of the hundreds of hours you would not otherwise have spent helping your child grow up.